TTC#2: what would you do?

Given that small window, I would now. Let God work out the maternity leave and France trip. That's just my opinion though. I always say do what you feel is in the best interest of your family(potential bay included).

I think I would keep trying too. You know, you sound so much like me, I always felt guilty when I needed to do something that would interfere with work. I was so afraid to "put them out". HOWEVER - with a pregnancy - you would have several months to make arrangements to have someone teach for you or just temporarily lighten your load. PLUS, if your husband is home and you are OK with going back to at least teach in those early months I say go for it. Besides, it could take months to get pregnant again or your baby could come early..... even if you could time it perfectly there's still so many things that could change it!!!!!

Good luck on making such a difficult decision!!!!

I agree with the others. It's not worth putting what would be easier for work above what's best for you and your family, especially if you're considering your age and your parents' age and such. I don't think you'd actually put work above that. And two months really is a short window, and there's just no guarantee you'd conceive in those two months next year - what then?

In Canada it's typical and expected that someone is hired to cover mat leave for all kinds of positions, it's very do-able, even for professors! Could you colleague temporarily take over your extra responsibilities outside of teaching (like the France trip you mentioned)? If so, they would need to find sessional instructors to fill the remaining classes (if you took a full semester off) and that can easily be done. It'd be like technically your colleague would fill your mat leave, and the sessionals can fill the missing classes. Or, if you plan to return to work soon after delivery and have your husband at home, can you arrange ahead of time for guest lecturers, colleagues, student presentations or student-led seminars/discussions to fill those first couple weeks after the birth?

I think you can make this work. And you're planning way ahead - just think, you or so many professors like yourself could easily fall pregnant anytime of year by accident, and things would still work out somehow.

You & your babies (current baby & future baby) are most important. Work will sort itself out, and at the end of the day I'm pretty sure you'd want to do what you feel is best for your family before work, right? I am not trying to guilt you into anything at all, I hope that's not how I'm coming across, because there are way more factors than I know about and it's very possible that delaying ttc would actually be best for your family, and if so, then you need to do that. Just listen to your gut and do what you know is right and what you won't regret, even if it doesn't seem to be the easiest option right now.

(((hugs)))

All I can really say is that MrG and I had a plan -- what gender we wanted and when we wanted him to arrive. Obviously that Plan has not worked out for us and we'd be very happy with either gender at any time now. Sometimes it's not about what we want when we want it, but when God wants it to happen (if you're a God-believing person).

Nicki, from one working mom to another, I say GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!! You will never be able to replace any baby and given your work schedule, of working 2 days a week, that is awesome by the way , I think you can very much swing it!!! KEEP and it will happen!!!! Probably when you least expect it

I understand feeilng guilty about your job, but I also know that you really want another baby (i can tell by your posts ) and I say GO FOR IT NICKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

XXXXXX It will happen when its supposed to happen XOXOXOXO

Short and sweet? Keep trying!!

Just my two cents!!

hun i say go for it too, im sorry af arrived but i dont think it will take long, are you still BFing? you will work it out around baby, funny how things work out xoxo good luck