Mama and Baby's first year and beyond!

I had never heard of fifth disease, so I looked it up. At first when I read that it was parvodisease, it freaked me out cause I know that dogs can get that, and thought that they could spread it, but after I kept reading, it said that it's different and that you can only get it from humans. Anyway, it also said that her little body will build up an immunity to it and she shouldn't get it again. But, wow. You learn something new everyday. It also said it's more common in bigger kids and adults, so it was interesting that she got it. At least she sounds like she's okay.

Jayden now has all of her teeth, thank God. One less thing for us to worry about. We've been putting her on her pot, and she's doing well. She doesn't mind sitting on it for awhile. I'm sure it helps that we sometimes bring it to the living room where we are and let her sit on it there. But after she's "performed", she yells out "sticker" for us to reward her with a sticker. We just need to build consistency with putting her on there, so that her body will become trained to go on the pot instead of her diaper(hopefully). I said that I was not going to buy any more diapers, and now we're down to like 15. I don't think she's trained enough to not buy any more diapers, but I meant it, I'm not buying anymore. DF can go to the store to get her some, but I'm not.

Jadah went to her ENT appointment yesterday, and now she's scheduled to get her tonsils out on the 29th. I'm so happy we were able to get her in so soon, cause her pediatrician said it usually takes like 2 months to get in.

I haven't told you ladies this. I guess it's cause this is the one place where I can forget what's going on and just escape to peace. But, this is wrong. We come to one another with the good and the bad. So, here we go. My exhusband sucks major monkey balls. He and his wife are taking me to court on the 21st for more visitation of Jadah. That in itself isn't all that bad, but we're not talking about a normal father seeking his normal rights of seeing more of his daughter. So, I shall quickly(hopefully) bring you up to speed on this man. We met in high school, dated for about 8 months, broke up cause he was a jerk, then dated again our senior year. I got in a fight with this girl who he claimed was his childhood friend, but who I knew really liked him and she disrespected me a lot(yeah, I was stupid, should've just broke up with him). We dated all through college, but the relationship sucked cause I didn't trust him, and he didn't show me the respect that I deserved(stupid me never left him, though). January 2001, I sat him down and told him that I wasn't happy, that I felt he wasn't treating me like I should be treated, and that I didn't know what I wanted in a relationship cause he was the only guy I had ever dated and ever slept with. I just knew that what we had, I didn't want. So, we split up(but not), while I searched for what I wanted. Yeah right, that was stupid too. But I digress. That manipulative jerk told me that if I started to feel like I wanted to have sex with a guy, to let him know cause that meant we weren't suppose to be together(as a mature adult, I now know he wanted to sleep around, but didn't want his prize to be shared with anyone else). Anyway, I ended up sleeping with this guy secretly(no emotions), for like 1 1/2 months. Yet, exhusband and I still fooled around. I got pregnant, got back with him BEFORE I knew I was pregnant, then spent the remainder of the pregnancy wondering who was the father. Jadah came out looking like me!! Still no relief there. All through our relationship he cheated, I have no proof, but I just know. January 2003, he got charged with raping some girl at a college party, but then they got dropped(or whatever) until 2004. His story then and now is that they went to a party, he and girl had sex, she found out from her roommate(who was his BFF's cousin) that he had a girlfriend and baby and flipped. Supposedly they concocted a story about rape. To this day, I still don't know the whole story. I forgave him for cheating(STUPID, STUPID, STUPID). I told him that there was a possibility Jadah wasn't his, told him who I'd slept with, and that craziness(we still never took a dna test). Months later, I wanted to join the navy, but had a problem with signing Jadah over to someone. So, he and I got married so that we didn't have to go through that process(stupid again). The weekend before we got married, I almost put him out cause I suspected him of cheating on me with this girl(they're married now, ). Anyway, we got married, I went to boot camp then on to San Diego for schooling, and he and Jadah stayed in Louisiana. I now know that the whole time he was using my money and having a relationship with her and I guess playing house with our daughter. They moved to San Diego in March of 2004, finally he went to trial and they found him guilty of sexual battery. He never went to jail, except initially after they found him guilty until his sentencing. Supposedly(I wasn't there due to the navy stuff) they sentenced him to 10 years probation and a $5000 fine. He never really held down a job while in San Diego, I supported the three of us. He still talked to the female on the phone(cause they were friend). I was so stupid I could kick myself up the butt over and over again. But, to my credit, I think I had stopped loving him a long time before all that, but it was like I was just going through the motions of life. Anyway, one day, SHE called me to clarify some things. She claimed that she didn't know we were married and that he had told her that he was leaving me, and yada yada yada. She said that they had been together for years(like since I was pregnant in 2001). Anyway, I kicked him out. He moved back to Louisiana(secretly in with her), but kept saying that everyone was lying on him(his family even confirmed their relationship). I almost took him, but I didn't. He went el loco when I actually moved on. He somehow gained access to my cell phone's voicemail, and was calling my male friends and harassing them. Once DF started to talking, he left threatening text messages on his phone and stuff. DF and I almost broke up before we got started good cause one of his good friends was killed(and the guy's girl) because her exboyfriend came into her house and killed them both. So, he was leery about the situation, but thankfully he stuck around. Exhusband came back to San Diego and flipped out some more, and anonymously vandalized my suv($5000 worth of damage). Fast forward a bit, and he tried to get custody of Jadah, but California doesn't grant custody to sex offenders, so I won, but he and his probation officer lied to the courts and all kinds of stuff. Anyway, from October 2005-now, he's seen her a couple days in 2006, a week in 2007, and a week in 2008. He rarely calls(like once a month), and sends her stuff for birthdays and christmas. Now, out the blue, he wants better visitation than what our custody order says. But, what's funny is that I going to let her go out there for 3 weeks this summer before they told me they were taking me to court. So, now I'm trying to bust my butt to come up with $2500(that I don't have) for my attorney's retainer fee. His wife has sent me so many messages on myspace that I know it's borderline harassment. Jadah's now in competitive gymnastics and is not suppose to miss more than 2 weeks of training, so if he wins, her dreams are out the window. And she doesn't even want to go by him. But he doesn't care. I was so stressed, I had my first anxiety attack ever last week. But, I have let go and am going to let God's will be done. Stressing over everything is not going to change HIS outcome. So, I'm not asking for your prayers that things work out for me and Jadah. I'm asking that you pray for me to have peace of mind that God knows all of our hearts, and will do what HE feels is best for Jadah. Thank you for listening/reading.

Chrisb- I am so sorry to hear about Emy having fifths disease. My step-son had that when he was about 2, he got it from pre-school, and he had no long term effects from it. I hope Emy get's better soon.

Mscherry- I hope that Jadah's tonsil removal goes well. Will they be cutting or using a laser? I heard the laser isn't nearly as painful. I'm sorry about your custody battle. That is terrible. I do not think that it will be safe for Jadah to even be near her biological father. Is there a possibility that you could let the courts know she may not be his, and they will order a paternity test to make sure??? That could buy you some time. Lawyers are so expensive. I am sorry about what you went through with your ex and all. Keep us updated, and please know that we are here for you.

Skyllar- I'm glad you are enjoying Europe. I LOVE German food, I can see why Kian does as well! I hope Kian is feeling better also.

Lou Lou- So cute about Owen starting to walk. It won't be long now, and he'll be running!!!!

I'm getting baby hungry. If things are better for us in December/January, we are going to start . I want to lose 10 more pounds before then, which I know I can do.

Hi all
mscherry- i am sorry hun that you have so much going on!!! i pray that they dont make it too hard and that you remain witht he custody, he doesnt sound like a very nice man and i am so glad youhavefound your lovely fiance xo
Chris- oh poor Emy, Kyrah just had hand foot and mouth again ( dunno where he gets it from) but she got over it quickly and she has also been cutting her k9's and molars and hasnt been sleeping but pretty sure they are all through now YAY and sis sleeping bette again , she has SOOO many teeth already , good luck ttc when you decide too

Nicki- Great to see everything is going well with your travels, im so jealous lol my mum and dad are in England and europe at the moment...lucky. Hope Kian feels better and enjoy the slow walking as it wont be for much longer, he will be off. lol

Lou Lou- yay for owen , make sure you take lots of film, as the first steps dont last long lol xo

Tiff- how exciting i hope ttc goes well for you babe xoxo lloks liek a few of us will be ttc soon

i know i saythis alot but our babies are growing up SOOOO fast!!, Kyrah bounces on everything and is climbing and running, she is such a todler now and is talking more and more, pretending to rosk her dolls , feed her animals etc where have our babies gone lol

Hi to DM, Angel( happy birthay Tia li) momma bear, georgi, Gutter, 24P...sorry if imissed anyone
Well i am of to work today (UGH) lol Kyrah is going to MIL until my mum gets home,
bye all xo

Thanks, ladies. It means a lot. And I thank God for DF. Although gets on my last nerves sometimes, I know that he is a good man, both inside and out.

Our babies are turning into little kids. Jayden now loves to take out the trash. She whines until you give her the handles of the trash bag and drags it to the trash can outside. Yesterday she helped DF bring in the groceries. It's so cute to see her struggle with the bags cause you know she won't accept any help.

Have a great day all.

lol Mscherry, she is such a determined and clever girl, i love heraing her stories lol

mscherry- i hope everything has a good resolution. I know so many people going through custody cases. Actually I know someone in almost the exact same situation. Doesn't know for sure if its his, the boy is now 10, and the father has been in the nut house a few times. He has been paying child support for years and won't get the dna test. He decided to fight for custody out of nowhere when the son was about 7. He lived in another state and wasn't going to get any but unfortunately the only way to get him out of her hair was to take out a loan and hire a lawyer. It ended up costing $15,000.

Sky- sounds like kian is doing wonderful with the traveling. i'm jealous your getting so much good food.

Well, I met with my attorney($2000 in cash, and I owe him $500 more on Thursday). He seems confident that my exhusband will not win his emergency case of getting Jadah this summer. After this hearing on the 21st, we'll have to either go to mediation to sort it out or go to trial, which will be expensive. I'm thinking about filing a restraining order against his wife. She had the audacity to find me on facebook, and send me a negative message saying, "This is a really bad picture of you. Those braids are horrible and you look like you gained 50 pounds." Those are her exact words. And you know I'm going to print it out and give it to my attorney. Something is really wrong with that female. Do I want to punch her, or at the very least tell her off, yep, but I can't because then I would look just as bad. But it just makes me mad that the she took the time to look me up, then send me a negative comment like some catty you know what. Oh well, I'm above her and that mess.

I'm off to finish making our homemade pizza crust. We're also making homemade ice cream and oatmeal cookies. Take care.

Just checking in to say hi. I have been lurking a bit, but the two older kids have pretty much made summer vacation hell for all of us, so I haven't been too chatty. Just another week to go and BACK TO SCHOOL. I know that sounds bad but I am barely coping right now, I am so over their lying and tantrums.

Hope things are going better for everyone else. Lucy just finished up swimming lessons, the last few days were awesome, she really had a great time. Last sat we were in the truck at her lunch time, we had to travel to Buckeye west of Phoenix in the morning, and decided to just do lunch late when we got home. Anyways she got hungry and started asking for her Ba Ba - the first time ever she has asked for it!

Hey guys!
Sorry I haven't posted in a while! We've been really busy the last week or so. Owen is finally going longer stretches between naps which means we can get out and do some fun things now!! I have been taking him every where!!!!!
We've been to lunch, the park, the science museum, Chuck E Cheese, etc.....

I've been reading along but don't think I can catch up on personals. I do want to say that I'm sorry Emy has been sick and I hope she is feeling better!

Cherry - I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time too. It doesn't sound to me like he has a chance in hell though!

DM - hope you can make it one more week! Hang in there!!!!!!
and kuddos to Lucy for asking for her Ba Ba!!!!!!


Gotta go but I'll be back!!!!

Thanks everyone. I'm feeling good now that I have a lawyer handling things. I meet with him today to sign a few documents.

Glad you and Owen are able to do fun stuff now.

Yea! Lucy. They start figuring out just how to communicate effectively when they get hungry.

We're really stepping up the potty training thing, although Jayden is giving us gray hairs because of it. But, I'd say we're changing like 3 or 4 diapers a days, max. Yesterday was a bad day with the potty training, but the day before was great, only 2 diaper changes. We have a little pot that we use, but she's playing around too much now on it(sticking her feet and hands into while sitting on it, turning around and sitting backwards while on it, getting up constantly), so I think I'm just going to buy the seat that goes onto our toilet. I'm wondering if we're allowing her to eat too much junk. I mean, she still eats her three meals, but she drinks like 30 oz of milk, a cup of juice or water(sometimes 2 cups), and snacks and eat whatever anyone else is eating, ALL DAY LONG. Yesterday besides her regular meals, she had a bag of chips, 2 packs of fruit snacks, some ramen noodles, grapes, honey dew melon, apple slices, granola bar, and a cookie, and her normal liquid consumption mentioned above. I know she's not overweight, so that's not my worry. But, maybe I should be giving her food when she begs for our snacks during the day(I don't think she would go for it, but just maybe). I'm also hoping it's just a phase. She has to have exactly what someone else is having, or she throws a fit(not a tantrum, but a soulful cry like her dog just died). Jadah had a granola bar, and Jayden started whining for some. So, Jadah broke her off a small piece. She threw it!! Then started pouting a bit. So, I had Jadah give her a MUCH bigger piece(almost half). She took it, bit a tiny piece off, and started crying all sad like(it was funny, yet incredible to watch). I had never seen that cry before. So Jadah brought her her own granola bar and she was immediately happy again. She's now like that with pretty much whatever anybody's eating. Now, someone please tell me if you've encountered this, and how you managed. Cause Jadah's at a point where she's so tired of sharing, and I don't blame her, and we don't always have an extra for Jayden.

Well MsCherry...I must tell you that I do believe this is part of having more than one child Or at least from what I can tell, Jayden and Thane aren't that different

How old is Jadah? Blaine is 9 and Thane is 18 months tomorrow, and let me tell you if Bubba has it Thane HAS to have it! My MIL yesterday tried to give Thane his juice in a sippy and he had a meltdown cuz Bubba was drinking from a cup and so HE had to drink from a cup. He is also wanting to eat at the big table now and not his high chair.

How old is Jayden? She is older than Thane i believe so I am not surprised at all at her wanting to "be big" like all of you I think its just her way of being independent and being like you I know Jadah gets sick of it, as does Blaine, but its also VERY normal If you find a solution let me know