Mums of babies 12-18 months

Get posting ladies

So, I'm in Babies R Us yesterday and I run into a pregnant woman and of course I start asking questions- when is she due, how is she feeling, does she know if it's a boy or girl, etc...Now, we were having a conversation and these questions naturally came up over time. I didn't just start bombarding with her a million questions all at once out of the blue, lol! She's 27 and she has a little girl who is 2 and she is almost due with her 2nd baby, a baby boy.

It seems that the overwhelming majority of the women I know and meet online or in "real" life who have a first child Donovan's age or a little older are either pregnant or have plans to become pregnant within the next year, and yet, I feel no overwhelming or even small desire to this...

Now, like all you Moms, I love my kid to death- would do anything for him, throw myself in front of a bus for him etc, but I don't want another one! I feel like I am missing the "mommy gene" or something b/c I am definitely in the minority on this one. Most women/couples want two kids at least. Hmmmpt! What's wrong with me lol?

For example, Donovan recently started walking on September 12th and I'm just tickled about it. However, my best friend and a lot of other of my online mom firends cried when their babies reached this milestone b/c they felt some kind of "loss" that their "baby" is no longer a "baby baby" anymore. For me, the more independent Donovan becomes, the more in control of my life again I feel and the happier I am. Truly, I think I am missing the "want to have another baby gene" b/c it's simply not there for me and I seem to be in the overwhelming minority here. My husband is totally cool with only one child too, and he's a natural with kids. I think if I got PG again, he'd be thrilled, but like me, he's very content with only the one considering all the work they are to take care of and, let's face it, they're expensive lol!

Anyway, enough about that...just had these thoughts and wanted to write about them to clear my head.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend!

-Allison xoxo 8)

Thanks, hun! That makes me feel better. I know we're all different and I have always respected the people I have met who have decided not to have any children, although there aren't TOO many that I've met who have no children at all. Most people have at least one.

I really feel so grateful to have been able to conceive and carry my baby with no complications to full term, but I feel like I had the experience once and I don't need to do it again. As for D being an only child, some people may think this is selfish of me not to give him a sibling, but there are far worse fates than been an only kid. He'll get a lot more, attention-wise and financially, and I suppose we can always bring a friend for him when we go on vacation....It's cheaper than paying for another college tuition lol.

And, yes, okay, I admit it- selifishly for me and DH, it DOES make our lives less complicated!!!

I guess if everyone were the same, the world would be an awfully boring place. I just remember back in the fall of 2006 deciding one day that I wanted to be a Mom (I wasn't sure before that and I swear one day it just hit me and I HAD to get pregnant!). So, I did get pregnant that November and now I feel that that "need" has been satisfied. Who knows? Maybe in another couple of years, my clock will start ticking again, but I doubt it....

That's true, Nika. A lot of people have more than one or two children because of family or societal pressure, which is not really a great reason to have another child.

Oh my goodness- Donovan has been sleeping until noon the past three days and then he even takes an afternoon nap and doesn't go to bed terribly late! He eats as he normally does and acts his usual self, but has been sleeping a lot more than usual! Could this be because he started walking recently and the new development has overloaded him mentally and physically. Should I call the pediatrician? I probably will call tomorrow anyway lol. I am such a freak- complaining that my baby sleeps TOO much- lol! No, but really, he rarely sleeps so late into the morning, although he HAS done it before. This could be a moot point anyway because just watch- tomorrow he will wake me bright and early at 8 am lol!!!

Just wondering if anyone had any insight into why this might be happening....

Hi all,

Well I belong here now, Ethan turned one on the 20th Sept. Its taken me a bit of time to get here, I've had a very hectic couple of weeks.

Ethan has taken very well to whole milk, he's drinking on average 30oz a day, thats more than he ever took with formula. He's still having problems with lumpy/table foods so he only really gets pureed food at the moment. I don't think it entirely fills him which is why he drinks so much milk. He's still having one bottle during the night too (about 2am). I've tried to break him from it but he just screams. I can't let him scream because DD is in the next room and I have someone living underneath my flat so I have to give in. I think things will improve when I eventually get to move and Ethan can have his own room.

He's getting more brave with standing now, he still hold on with one hand but twists his body right round to look at things and still maintains his balance. He is a bit slow with reaching his physical milestones but boy he's so switched on mentally and emotionally! He can now push a car around going bbbrrrmmmm, its so cute and he can stack 3 blocks on top on one another. He says about 10-12 words and although he doesn't pronounce them perfectly, he can make himself understood.

He was due his meningitis c shot 2 weeks ago but the 1st week, the surgery was closed for training and then last week he was unwell with a cold. I'm hoping this week is 3rd time lucky. he willhave to have 2 more shots in 4 weeks time and then that will be it until he starts pre-school!

Anyway, gotta run and get DD from school, catch you later!

Hayley x

It sure is quiet here! How do I get my ticker in my post! I've designed one, added it to my siggy using BB code, I've saved it but it doesn't show up!!

Hayley x

I am officially/unofficially declaring Jayden as WALKER!!! She has been stumbling around for the past 3 days. She even takes off on her own. She just hasn't mastered yet. I'm so proud. Merry Christmas everyone!! Oh, and one more accomplishment, she ate an entire hamburger happy meal yesterday, too!

Blimey, it's not very busy on this thread, surely I can't be the only one with a 12-18 month old. Come on ladies, someone please post. It would be lovely to chat on here about what's going on at this stage.

Yey,go Jayden and Molly! I am sorry there aren't many of you with kids in tis age group.Bring some friends!

Yes, I also belong in this topic heh

V is almost 16 months now..

What he does:
-He walks, and runs, very good now.
-We play hide and seek and he screams running away from me and hiding behind the sofa
-He points and says 'aaa' when he wants something.
-He dances
-He remembers how to turn on a toy or something
-He 'talks' on the phone but whatever he's saying I don't understand.
-He can eat whole pieces now, especially chicken or red meat but refuses still to eat fruit. He HATES fruit. ITs a real struggle to get him to eat it. I put in cookies, cream, yoghurt, whatever..he won't eat it, period. Uh.

What he doesn't do:
-He doesn't say anything, nada, zip. Not even 'mama' or 'papa'. Nothing. Tap tap tap..I can't wait to hear a word.

I don't know if there is anything else he should be doing at this age which he's not..

It would be nice to chat with other moms here..the other site has kinda died for me..
I did post about the new pregnancy but to be honest, I don't feel welcome there.
You know by who.

Good job, Jayden!! And wow, a whole happy meal! Vasily has never eaten a happy meal or even just a hamburger yet..I'm afraid to give him one lol..I think that after eating one thats all he'll ever want to eat again heh

Hehe! The only things Jayden doesn't like normal. She doesn't like raw red bell peppers or raw parsley. I tried giving her some while I was cooking. She's also acting like she doesn't like scrambled eggs all of a sudden.

Things Jayden's doing:
She says Hi, mom, dad, jadah, eye, stop
she waves hi and bye
she's staggering walking
she's still allergic to dairy, but will eat EVERYTHING else
she "sings" when any of us are singing
scoots off sofas, and the other day she backed off my really up bed
she knows what to do with a brush and scrunchie, although she can't put the scrunchie in


I also think she's trying to eliminate her second and last nap of the day

Among other gifts, we bought her a cell phone, and that is her best gift. Now, she doesn't even bother touching ours!!!

Spotless, how's the pregnancy coming along? How far along are you now?

Norah,I am so sorry,I remember scrolling up and seeing your post and thinking 'Ooops I forgot norah,but then I got side tracked..

I wanted to comment on the speech thing. MOST children will start sayinga few words by nine months 'ball,baba,dada,mama' or making sounds which relate to things 'woof woof(dog) mow mow (cat) etc...

HOWEVER<I DO remember you telling me that you and DH speak to V in 2 different languages right?This will explain the later talking.I have read about it and also,living in France I had sevral english and italien/german/dutch (and more) friends who spoke their native language to their children,thekid would learn french either from the other parent or at school (they start playcschool at 2 yrs) and thei speech would always be slowerbutit's only because thier brains have far more to take in a process.Once they Do speak,they dazzle everyone as bilingual 2 year olds and also,kids who grow u around/hear/speak multiple languages tend to be smarter (Studies)

I didnt'mean to leave you out anyway hun.Sorry

Hope Jayden and molly and Ethan are all well! xxx