Toddler And Up!

ive got a 3 year old tonishia whos 4 this year starts school, and a 1 year old who is 2 this year, and trust me do i no shes turning 2, terrible 2's are kicking in already, shes hard work, shes got this mad habit of rubbing milk of all things into my chocolate brown carpet, hehe, i love them both like crazy tho, i need to get me some photos up here, sorry im new to this site signed up about 2 minutes aho so u gotto let me get the hang of it hehe

Welcome Sharon C,you may find you get more response in one of the opther threads,but of course you are welcoe to post anywhere you like.Cant wait to see some pics of your kiddies

Just wondering about sleeping habits for those of you who have toddlers approx Molly's age! I am going out of my mind here. I had the perfect sleeper until she was one, where she would go in her cot awake, I would leave her and she would just go to sleep. Then she just started to scream and end up making herself vomit so we got into a really bad habit of pushing her in her puschair to get her to sleep and then transfer her to her cot. A few months down the line we thought that she would be happier having her cot changed to a bed so we did that and put a bed guard on and although she doesn't scream, she just thinks that bed time is a big game! It takes her between 1hr (if we're lucky) and 2 hrs to go to sleep! With a new baby on the way, I am desperate to nip this in the bud but being so sick, I don't have the energy to keep going back into her room to put her back into bed. I'm not sure if we should change the bed back to a cot and just let her cry or what we should do! I know we have made a rod for our own backs but this kind of stems from my ppd as I would start to get very paranoid when she cried, I used to think she was going to die or something!

i have a 1 year old girl her names rosie (2 in november) she is such a good girl, but recently she wont eat any proper food, and refuses healthy foods such as fruit and vegetable! ive tried cutting them into shapes and eating them with her but it doesnt work! any ideas on how to get her eating them?? also she has started to scream alot and completly ignore anything i say to her, (that may sound a bit wierd considering her age but shes actually very ahead of her age) she understands when i tell her no and tell her to stop doing something, but she chooses to ignore me, she has started to smack me and her dad to, and throw things and she hurts her cusion who is 7 weeks younger than her, can somebody please give me some advice because im startin to feel like a bit of a failure!!!!!!! HELP!

galaxy wrote:Just wondering about sleeping habits for those of you who have toddlers approx Molly's age! I am going out of my mind here. I had the perfect sleeper until she was one, where she would go in her cot awake, I would leave her and she would just go to sleep. Then she just started to scream and end up making herself vomit so we got into a really bad habit of pushing her in her puschair to get her to sleep and then transfer her to her cot. A few months down the line we thought that she would be happier having her cot changed to a bed so we did that and put a bed guard on and although she doesn't scream, she just thinks that bed time is a big game! It takes her between 1hr (if we're lucky) and 2 hrs to go to sleep! With a new baby on the way, I am desperate to nip this in the bud but being so sick, I don't have the energy to keep going back into her room to put her back into bed. I'm not sure if we should change the bed back to a cot and just let her cry or what we should do! I know we have made a rod for our own backs but this kind of stems from my ppd as I would start to get very paranoid when she cried, I used to think she was going to die or something!

first of all how far along are uin your pregnancy? and congrats on that, it doesnt hurt a child to cry although it drives u insane hearing them so distraught and it can be upsettin knowing there crying and your not responding, but in my opinion it sounds like your little one knows that once she is awake and realises noone is in the room with her, she crys.. and im guessin your automatic reaction is to go and see to her, which is what she is expecting, try leaving her for 10 minutes before u go and check on her, dont lift her from her bed, personally i would change her back to her cot, to stop her climbing from it, but leave her to cry for 10 minutes, and gradually extend the time so try 10 minutes 1 week then 15 the week after and so on, if she knows u are not going to respond to her when she crys she wont do it, and will eventually fall back to sleep, (well this is what i did with my 1 yr old) and now she sleep 12+ a night, but then all kids are different, any ways i hope all goes well for u and your birth, and good luck on this subject its always a toughy when it comes to childrens sleep patterns, but i would say somewhere along the lines her routine has been messed up somehow, just remember when u go into her bedroom, dont switch on her bed room light and dont pick her up, just tuck her in the bed kiss her and walk out again and if she starts to cry again repeat the process, leave her to cry for 10 mins, n then repeat it, good luck again xx

Thanks Guys, well what happened one night was dh decided he was going to stay in the room but have no contact with her and each time she got up he would put her back in bed. Well the first night she got up at one point and dh said 'go back to bed' and she looked at him in the eyes and said 'no!' So that was it he said right Daddy's leaving, you can go to sleep on your own if your such a big girl. He came out and she cried and cried and he literally had to pin me down on the bed to stop me going to her. She stopped after 25 minutes and I then realised that she knows much more than we realise and knows how to manipulate us. We have done the same every night since then by putting her in bed, giving her a kiss and walking out and by about night 4 she would not cry and just go to sleep. I feel so much more energised, though she has been coming into bed with us a few times in the middle of the night due to teething, colds etc. I am just happy we have made this progress as it means if I feel really tired with the pregnancy, I can have an early night. I have decided this next one can have a pacifier and we will be a bit harder I think with bedtime. I wanted Molly to have a pacifier but my mil gave me trouble about it and I got all upset but her daughter has just used one and she is happy to use it when she is babysitting so I'm not going to take any notice this time. It's all on my terms, not hers!