WTTC your first or last baby!! Official chat!!!

Blimey, having 4 kids at the age of 21....oh my god is all I can say lol.

Georgi, you never know (positive thinking) and you may get twins

HOw exciting.I never felt sad like it was my last time to have a baby with Teo. HOwever,sometimes with this one,it feels like its the last,we are very undecided on what will happen ,weather or not we'll have another and how.I would like and have always felt like I woulf have 3.I think another boy,but I do not know if I want to be pregnant again.I HATE it,I feel awful,either heavy sick or tired and just don't like looking all bloated and unsexy.that may sound shallow but it's the way I feel.

I am thinking I will forget how this feels in a couple of years and want another,or I will look seriously into adopting.I think there are so many wonderful babies born every minute that,for one reason or another cannot be with their parents.I want to take them all in.I know that is silly,I am not trying to be angelina jolie by any stretch of the imagination.I imagine it is hard and would not want to overwealmed,the child,my existing family or myself with this.However,it is somethign I am considering.have mentioned it to hubby.We'll see!

Well,I was just thinking yesterday.It's not another baby that would be a problem for me it's the pregnancy.Neither hubby or I like when I am pregnant.I feel like a big uncomfortable nauseous lump and neither of us get much sex.That might sound shallow but it's almost a year of discomfort if you think about it and I HATE being pregnant.This last one was way worse than my first and the thought of going through that again is quite terrifying to me.I do however LOVE having my baby girl.This time around I am not so terrifed .I was with Teo and that kinda ruined it for me.I enjoyed more when he got a bit older.This time I am loving the baby part,even the sleepless nights.

I would gladly have another baby but if we could do it without the pregnancy that woulf be better for me LOL!

When we were dateing we both joked that we wanted 12 kids. Sometime after we were married I learned that I was the only one who got it was a joke! Hee hee
We have four now, and it feels great. My husband would sooo love more but he knows that I would really have to want them. I am only 33 so who knows. I also had endo and was told that I would have a really difficult time getting pregnant and with each one I have gotten pregnant within the first month of trying. So I have to be really careful now.
Who knows, I have to remind myself right now that whenever I have a two year old in the house, I swear I won't ever have anymore!!

Crystal

If LM was sleeping through the night, I would probably get pregnant within the next few months. However... since she isn't, I don't even want to think about pregnancy exhaustion, and getting no sleep at night. I just couldn't handle it. So, we'll be trying at the end of next summer.

So basically what we're all saying is we would love to have another baby BUT we all have different reasons for it not trying right just yet or possibly not trying again ever??? I know for a fact that if I think thing's are hard now it will even harder with 2 children but I know that no matter how difficult it 'might' be I would rather have my children closer together for many reasons.

Crystal - How old are you children??

Angel - You mentioned adoption in a previous post, would you consider just adopting one baby or possibly 2??

I was very lucky and had a great pregnancy and birth and i loved being pregnant and i cant wait to do it again, if we fell pregnant soon we would be over the moon, although it would be hard with children closer in age, we would manage!!! i cant wait hehehe
the only thing that makes me hesitate is that i wan to be able to spend quality time with Kyrah but we wouls still make a huge effort too if we fell straight away

sparkles wrote:I was very lucky and had a great pregnancy and birth and i loved being pregnant and i cant wait to do it again, if we fell pregnant soon we would be over the moon, although it would be hard with children closer in age, we would manage!!! i cant wait hehehe
the only thing that makes me hesitate is that i wan to be able to spend quality time with Kyrah but we wouls still make a huge effort too if we fell straight away

and that is one of my reasons against having children so close Sparkles, I am afraid that I will struggle to devote as much attention to Theo but the reasons for do out weigh the reasons against.

I really enjoyed being pregnant aswell if my pregnancy had been different I probably wouldn't be feeling so broody!

I think I'd like 2 more kids. I'll space the next one so LM and he/she are 2 1/2 years apart, then wait 2 1/2 years after our second child's birth to get pregnant with a third. I would like to adopt a fourth.

I wish I could afford a surrogate though, I hate being pregnant. Maybe my next pregnancy will be easier.

Georgi wrote:

Angel - You mentioned adoption in a previous post, would you consider just adopting one baby or possibly 2??

no not 2.I see us with 3 but not 4.I dont know if we need another one though.Things are hard enough as it is.Like everytime one of them gets sick its a nightmare for me...I know that might sound shallow but its the truth of it.

I have 3 boys, 10, 9 and 5. Then I have our little girl who is two. I have done it both ways. My oldest are only 18 months apart. THat is what we thought we wanted to begin with. But oh my gosh, those years after my second one was born are simply a blur! Now my husband was working full time, wrestling for the college he was going to and going to school full time, so I was pretty much doing it alone. But... as you can see there was a larger gap between our next one, and that was because I simply couldn't even imagine another one. I knew I wanted more, but simply couldn't even wrap my brain around it at the time. When we finally had our third, I loved it so much! I got to be a full time baby mom! The boys were old enough to enjoy him and not be so needy! I loved it and would never do less then 3 years apart again. BUt that is just me! My friends oldest is 10 like mine but she is pregnant with her seventh!! Yes 7!!! But she is amazing and just enjoys every aspect of it! So everyone is different. I will say though from my experience 3 is so much easier then two and two is easier then one! I can't explain it but it just is! I think that when we give birth something like added patience or hours of the day, just sort of appear. Just like you always wonder if you could ever actually love the other ones as much as you love your first, it just comes so natural it happens! Then after a while you wonder what it was like before you had the next one around.
Crystal