Transitioning from 1 Child to 2

I can't help at the moment Tiff, but I know the feeling. There will be the same age gap between Molly and her sibling as there will be between LM and hers. I guess it's just a case of adapting to a new way of life as you do when the first one comes along. Since I popped out receently, Molly has become more clingy and I just think it's because she can sense me being more protective of my body/bump/baby but doesn't quite understand why. She has seen baby on a scan and we have bought things for baby and shown her that it's for baby but it's so difficult to explain at her age. We plan to get her involved in every way possible (except for the breast feeding of course) and buy her a little present from the baby for when she meets him for the first time. We have been told to make sure that when she comes to the hospital, the baby is in the crib and not being held by Mummy and to cuddle her first. We also plan to tell visitors to say hello to her first and fuss over her before holding the baby. I'm so scared of her feeling left out and feel quite sad about 'our' time coming to and end and of her being our special little baby Will let you know how things go in due course. How are you feeling today by the way?

That's the important thing INVOLVE the other child as much as you! It's a lot to deal with all of a sudden this little person comes into their life and takes all the attention away from them.

Some of our good friends have bought Theo pressies as well as Klara which is rather nice and when they come over I try to use that time to play with Theo whilst they are cooing over Klara.

It's not been all breezy though Theo has had a fair few tantrums especially when I am breastfeeding, I have been trying my best to entertain Theo like reading a story whilst I am feeding but this doesn't always work and I am pretty much rooted to the spot..it's early days and I am sure it will get better.

I sometimes look at Theo and feel sad that he now has to share Mummy and Daddy but at the same time we have given him a sibling who oneday he will be thankful for and hopefully play along nicely with!!!

I have been thinking and worried about that too. Isaac cannot even come into the hospital to see me or the baby (he is too young). But my mom will be here and I am really hoping that she can be a sense of stability for him.

I am not going to lie its bloody hard!!! i took jesse to all my midwife appts so he could hear the heartbeat etc. he helped me get kierans room sorted. at the end of the pregnancy i got a new born doll which looked like a baby, even had the boy/girl parts!!! anyway when i came home with kiers i was on my own more or less right away with both kids as daryn had to go to work, so thru the day jesse had his baby and i had mine, when i changed kieran on the floor he would change his baby, etc, he also had a wee basket that i kept nappies, powder, wipes, a change of clothes and when kieran needed changing he would get that and help me bathe him etc, so yea just involve them as much as possible, when baby starts cooing and smiling thats when i found jess actually liked kieran! lol, jesse could make kieran laugh just like that. i dont think you can really prepare yourself for 2 children but its like having your first you just adjust automatically, its just a bit more demanding. it comes natrually and like georgi said, you are not taking anything from the first child like time, you are giving them a life long friend, everything will be the same except with an extra person. if that makes sense? You will do great and you will look back and think...."why was i ever worried about it?" lol
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