It's little things like this that piss me off

I've been told I'm very good at this too!


WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON WITH OUR HUSBANDS?!!!!!!!!!!!

Ha ha ha! This sounds like a broken record in my house. I'm the master at it supposedly, and my 7 year old daughter is my protege`. I never see myself doing it. Even after being explained to, it's like WTF? Maybe it's their insecurities, or something. When or if you get the answer to it, pleas let me know, so I can avoid at least ONE argument in my house.

Take a deeeeeeeeep breathe.I hear you being pissed off.I would be too.BUT this is something very stupid and small.PLease try and refocus on how great you were doing a couple of weeks ago.I know you feel you are owed an appology ,I agree that what he said was juvinile,unnecessary and hurtful BUT I think you know,with your hubby,you sometimes...well...OFTEN,you have to be the grown up and make nice.Not saying you should say sorry,not at all.But you have the ability and the power to move this onto nicer thigs for the time being.Like you said,when he's out of work,he is snippy and tense and it's the ideal breeding grounf for silly aruguments to turn into big fights.You are so much more mature and you have WAY more self control and selfawareness.Its up to you to keep things 'cool' I think until he gets a new and he has NO excuse to be snippy with you.I think once that is out of the way,you can talk and discuss some much needed adjustments in his attitude and speaking towards you.In the mean time,things are hard,you are up each others asses because he's always home,in your space,on the computer and it's VERY hard even for the most lovey doviest couples to not fight during these times.
I hope you are not offended by my suggestions or think that I am suggesting you be submissive or appologetic.I am not at all.I just know that IF you get into it with him,things will get a whole lot more intense because he can be very childish (like me/aries in general)and EXTREMELY stubborn and hard headed,it gets to a point with people of a certain character ( like me and your hubby) that we will resort to such childishness that we will SWEAR up and down that BLACK is WHITE JUST so that we can 'be right'...even resorting to saying things like 'well YOU started it,what about YOU,why don't YOU' all in an effort to deflect blame and turn things around.We get very deffensive and there is a certain way to handle us.YOU my sweet,know how to do it...I know it sucks and I know that you are having to 'be the one' but just for now,I think it will make life SO much easier to 'not' go there...Anyway,I hope I have not lectured you,plase feel free to tell me to shut the hell up. I just know a little bit about who he is (from what you tell me and from traits I recognise within myself) and I feel both sides here!

hugs love ya,keep your head up! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanx Angel, MSCherry

I am glad you guys posted. It did make me feel better. I am glad I am not alone in this! I think I just was in shock that he got snappy and said I was talking down to him. I think that because it's not in my personality to be knowingly malicious or hurtful and when I get accused of being so and even after explaining that I wasn't doing it to be rude or a know it all and he still said that he thought I was talking down to him, it really hurt because it couldn't be further from the truth!!! When I get accused of something that I wasn't doing at all and a person won't back away from that, it REALLY sets me off.

However... having said that, something keeps going through my head right now.

"Kindness begins with me."

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I like that phrase. I might have to make that my new mantra, with how crazy my house and life is.

yep Tiff I can totally relate!!! Like with our kitchen reno, he thinks he can do EVERYTHING...well I mentionned I was a little iffy about the roofing. He told me if I didn't trust him to call a roofer myself. So needless to say, I told him if he feels he can do it to do it.... sigh...

Oh Tiff I can relate so much to your post! That's my BF all over! lol! Alot of the time I have to really calm myself down because I know these things can easily escalate into a huge row! It's just in his nature and I try not to let it get to me. When I have PMS thats a whole new story though! lol!

I'm glad he came to his senses and apologized!