My poor wee guy (i feel so guilty!)

I feel like such a bad mum and am feeling sooo guilty

We went to drop hubbys work truck off at another guys house, jesse went with him and me and kieran went in the car to go pick them up. We arrived about 5-10 mins after they got there and daryn was holding jess, he had been crying. I took him and put him in the car and asked what was wrong, he said he had fallen off the fence (its a standard fence about 1 meter high) he had been climbing up and down on it as kids do, anyway he had hurt his arm, got him to wiggle fingers could do it so was all good. so we went to visit some friends who have just had a baby and he was playing with the toys fine then tripped up and landed on his arm again, (not hard) but started screaming so i had another look, it wasnt bruised or swollen could still move it and after 5 mins of cuddles he was back to normal playing with the other kids. we came home and i noticed he was stil sort of holding his arm up a bit and not using it, he never complained about it so i got him ready and put him to bed. at 11pm he woke up coz he had been laying on it and it was sore, got him back to sleep and in the morning he was as good as gold, didnt mention it just let him go, though he must of just hurt it a little and after a goodnight sleep its back to normal. We went to daycare at lunchtime and i mentioned to them about him hurting his arm the day before, if he knocked it or hurt it again just let me know. so an hour later they ring and tell me he had fallen off the bike and to pick him up. took him to doc who said its an elbow pull so he minipulated it back into place and which had jess screaming the hospital down. He sent us into the waiting room for 15 mins so jess could play with the toys as after an elbow pull it takes 10mins for pain to go away then it should be good. after 15 mins the doc came back and jess still wasnt using his arm so doc said he would send us for x rays, went home, rang radiology and they said to go see them, went over and got xray done (after a performance as he was scared of machine and thought that they had to take his skin off to check his bones) took us 20 mins to get xray done.
He has broken one of the bones, so we make our way down to the nurses in another ward to get a cast on then the doc came out and told us that the orthopedic surgeon wants to see us, as his arm is all buckled and might need surgery to insrt some steel rods into his forearm. so here we are at 6pm car packed, on our way to the other hospital nearly 2 hours away, get there and the OS looks at xrays and said no we just need to cast it up, dont know whay he couldnt just tell us that over the phone as he got the xray via email!!! so we got home at midnight lastnight.

I feel so guilty for not taking him to the doc right away, he had a broken arm without any treatment for 24 hours. He was still using it and clibing fences, riding bike etc while it was broken.
So now he is in a full arm cast for 4 weeks, joy joy as its summer here! he cant get it wet as its plaster not fibreglass!

II have been spoiling him heaps today!

Hon, you did the best you can, don't beat yourself up about it. I doubt most of us would question it at all with the way he was acting.

My guess is it was originally what they call a 'green stick' break, where it isn't truly broken. I think that is why it only hurt when bumped. I would say the er doctor doing the elbow pull did the rest of the damage that got you into the cast - and as a dr he should have caught it long before you would be expected to.

Thank goodness it looks like he won't need the rods and stuff. Smile, it'll be ok!

awe bless his heart!!!!!!!!!! I think that little ones are able to bounce back quicker than we are! I hope he has a speedy recovery!! And don't feel bad...you had no idea and you did what any mother would do and that was love on him and let him know it was ok.

Hope you get well soon, Jesse!

awww poor little jess, i hope he is ok, and dont blame yourself, i think we would have all done the same xoxoxo

Oh Teresa I am sorry honey and I can understand that you might feel as though it is your fault cos I would be exactly the same BUT honey unless you had X-ray vision you were not going to know he had broken a bone afterall he continued to play and he appeared to be fine. Your by no means a bad Mum.....ok!!!! x x x

OMG,I wrote a long post and must have erased it accidently :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:

But I wanted to say that my friend had pretty much exactly the same thing happen to her 4 year old son.He was playing on a haystack and fell off.He cried a little but didnt make a huge fuss and so he had his dinner and went to bed.Upon waking the next morning he said his arm still hurt and it was indeed swollen and blue,so she took him to the docs and they x rayed to confirm he had broen a bone.She had NO idea either.It's not something you can see,like Georgi said,unles you have xray vision.You did the right thing as SOON as you found out it wasn't getting better.You werent to know.My son has had things that LOOK awful but been nothing and then things can look like nothing and be something.Just the way it is I'm afraid!He will heal quickly and be fine so don't feel bad (although I understand)

hugs to little Jessie! xxxxxxxxxx

hun dont feel bad, i think ive broken every bone in my body. it got to the point that if i hurt myself even if i said i thought i was broken and it hurt so bad if there wasnt immediately a bad bruise or a bone poking through skin my mom made me sleep the night and if it still hurt that bad in the morning she took me to the Dr. lol.

seriously how could you have known, its not as if he was acting like he was in terrible pain. its ok hun, dont feel to hard on yourself, your a wonderful mom!!

Sweetie I am so sorry about little Jesse. But don't worry, you are a great mummy, and he is busy boy who seemed fine! All is well now, you couldn't possibly have known that his arm was broken at first, you did all the checks to see if there was a break.

I hope he doesn't need surgery, keep us posted!!!

xxxxxxx

Hey ladies, I have not had much time to post since jesse broke his arm! things have been so full on as well as having 2 public holidays here last week, Daryns been home so we been out and about all the time.
Anyway, Jesse has adjusted to having a cast on very well, a little too well! He will not rest it and is still jumping around being a boy. It was a soft cast. He got it on on Tuesday night and on friday night it had to come off and we had to get a new one put on (this time a fibre glass one) as the plaster one had gone soft in many places and was cracking. Im not sure how we are going to get it off as he hates noise and using the wee saw that they use is going to terrify him. He will scream the whole hospital down, he has had 4 xrays and everytime he screams as he thinks the machine will take his skin off to see his bones. there is no telling him, he will not believe us. so im a bit worried about that.

I shouldnt call it a broken arm because its not a clean break, its a fracture. his bone has split in half length ways down his forearm, like a stick when you go to break it but it doesnt break in half. Its the 2nd biggest bone in his arm, if you get what i mean. After 4 weeks we will go back in and have another xray and see if its still buckled and if it is, he might need to have a couple os pins put in, but hopefully not!
When we took the soft cast off, the nurses said we could bring him home and do it in the bath, so we took it off and he got out of the bath and what did he do?? he ran in to the lounge and catapoulted strait onto the couch and hurt his arm again! he has no idea!!!